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How To Make Your Birthday Bigger Than You…If You Want To

Anybody remember the 1990 movie, “Problem Child”? It was the first time I’d heard the song “It’s My Party” by Lesley Gore. There’s a scene in the movie where the main character, Junior attends a girl named Lucy’s birthday party. Lucy makes her party all about herself, taunts about how she can do whatever she wants, and excludes and humiliates Junior in the process. Junior totally gets extreme revenge but that’s beside the point.

One day a year it’s perfectly acceptable to live selfishly with no judgement from a single soul.

The point is, we’re taught to think and act like Lucy on our birthdays. One day a year it’s perfectly acceptable to live selfishly with no judgement from a single soul; in fact, it’s encouraged! “Don’t pick this up, it’s your birthday!” “What do you want to do? It’s your birthday!” “It’s your birthday, you shouldn’t have to do x, y, z.”


Although this may be a societal norm, we believe there are ways to celebrate your birthday by making it bigger than yourself and our little sister Destiny is doing just that!


Meet Destiny



This is Destiny, she’s turning 23 on January 26th and instead of asking for gifts for herself, she set a goal to raise $1000 for the organization Youth in Need.

This is how you make your day bigger than you.

Destiny is so passionate about this organization partly because of her work history with at risk youth and also because of her own story . Our family adopted her when she was 1 year old and as she’s grown up, she’s discovered her heart’s desire and life’s purpose is to help young people who feel displaced, alone, in need, or abandoned.


She’s currently a grad student studying for a double masters in Social Work and Business Administration. She’s already interned and worked for many non-profits and we have no doubt she’s going to be a force to reckon with in this world.

So we’re asking our friends, family, and followers to help us help her make her birthday bigger than herself by donating whatever you can to this great organization.


I would love for you to celebrate with me for my birthday! Posted by Destiny DeYonne on Saturday, January 19, 2019

About Youth In Need

Abandonment and abuse are not acts of God, they are failures of love.

We hope you’ll join us in partnering with our sis and this organization to make a difference in the lives of teenagers in need. Whether you can donate $1 or $100, every gift will help!


Keep Up With Destiny

Instagram: @__destinydeyonne


Lets Discuss This Post

Leave a comment letting us know your thoughts or feel free to answer one (or all) of the questions below:

  1. Do you think we place too much emphasis on ourselves on our birthdays?

  2. Is there anything right or wrong about taking a day to celebrate ourselves and do what we want?

  3. What do you think about what Destiny is choosing to do for her birthday this year?

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